I thought about how it feels to fight against the strong urges to go in on people. I check myself daily because Lord knows an unfiltered Kels with a vicious vocabulary will cut you deeply in haiku.
Gallons of get back
Open palms with backhand….slap
Lose my religion
I digress…..lol. There are moments when I read into things and from there its downhill. “The definition of petty is someone who gets caught up in small details.” There are moments I see something I don’t agree with and my mouth is moving before I have a chance to simmer down. I have wanted to remind people of their own failures, and point out their flaws when I feel they’ve gotten too big for their britches. I am even guilty of having spilled my petty thoughts into my ladies group chat cause thats the only place I can be petty in peace.
But what if you actually want to get off the petty train….well it is super hard to get off while it’s moving so it may be a good idea to stop the petty train first. I’ve found a little flow that helps me slow those thoughts down and get me back to a place where my thoughts aren’t directed towards pointing out what I don’t rock with in other people or situations.
“The definition of petty is someone who gets caught up in small details.”
I want to be able to have a feeling about something without it deeply shifting my feelings if that makes any sense. It also helps me take things less personally. What one does for themselves, chooses for themselves is their decision not mine. What is offensive is not what one chooses for themselves but choosing what is best for me.
The first thing to consider is to be aware when you are being petty. I mean I know when I’m being petty…..some people may not. Pettiness is a distraction, it also is a practice of judgement and condemnation. Petty people take an authoritative stance as experts and are pleased by picking through other peoples perspectives, choices and behaviors. Everyone has petty moments, but that doesn’t mean you HAVE to act on them even if you are thinking them. So before you set your petty in progress….press pause and practice a pose or two.
- Easy Seat
It can be hard to have a seat after you throw your cape on becoming super petty! Making a big to do about nothing can be distracting. If it doesn’t concern you yet your mind continues to fixate on something someone did, or said that literally has nothing to do with you, turn inward. As my granny would say “Sat down sum damn where” LOL
2. Handstand Wall Variation/ Box Pose
There is no better way to change how you see things than to turn it upside down. Sometimes we can only see things one way…our way. Our way can be just as biased and misinformed as anyone else’s. Turn upside down before turning your petty up to a 10.
3. Straddle Forward Fold Pose
Take some time and turn in with this straddle forward fold. What I love about the pose is that its easier the wider you take your legs. Connecting beneath you can feel uncomfortable. But I adore learning how to move myself out of my way to do what is best for me. When I’m in a petty mood to hurt or offend this pose takes me back to ground zero so I can remind myself there is no one behind me that is going to celebrate my kindness but when I rise there are people watching my petty moves….I don’t want to be known for the latter so I check myself.
I know throwing shade can feel like its the right thing to do….lol but if you are ready to reflect less on the shortcomings of others and ready to let the little stuff go and even if you’re not ready, cheers! The first step is always awareness and when you know in my opinion you grow.